DATING

One of the exciting things about teen years is that guys discover girls. That scrawny lady you once delighted in teasing has suddenly become a picture of feminine beauty in your mind that you always want to be with. How do you picture that handsome guy who spoke to you the other time in your class? The admirer you have always admire of getting closer to?

               The desire to associate with the opposite-sex is as natural as the sun rising in the morning. This brings up the subject of dating. A date is a pre arranged time spent with a person of the opposite-sex. Everyone wants someone to talk to, someone with whom you can share your joy and problem with. From a research I conducted, most teenagers do not really understand what a date is. After having a chat with a very prominent counselor, I realized there were different kinds of dates.

               Group dating is when several couples get together. When is two couples, it is a double date. A single date is just with one person. What do I benefit from dating? Dating is not only enjoyable but helps you to learn to get along socially, developing your personality, and selection of mate. If you don’t date, how do you get to know the person you want to marry or share your life with.

               Dating someone is like putting your approval on that person. Knowing something about your partner’s reputation, background and behavior is a key factor.

Every lady needs to learn that it is better to stay at home than to be out with the wrong kind of date. Sometimes we are asked to go on a blind date by a friend. A blind date is a date with someone you have never met before. It can bring together two wonderful roles but I once practiced it and I found myself in a very hot water. Which I advice you don’t practice. You should date someone who thinks and believes the same way that you do.

               Most of our guys do not know how to ask for a date but would like to have more. The problem is how to go about asking for a date. The guys are trying to figure out how to ask for a date and the ladies are also trying to figure out how to get the guys to ask them. Let me give you a tip off of how to make the move; [1] the first move is yours. It is always the guys who do the asking. Take a very bold step and do it at the right time and in advance; not at the last minute. When you phone her, don’t make her go like who are you? Speak up and sound confident. Your invitation should be courteous and specific. This is how it should be “hi Jenny, this Eben

, how about going to the beach with me this weekend?” Don’t beat around the bush before asking. If you ask’’ what would you be doing this weekend?” I can decide to know what to you are about and if not interested I can turn you down. (2) Always be sure to name the type of event you have in mind so that she can tell her parents or know how to dress. And if there is any change in your plans, let her know. (3) If a lady refuses your invitation, accept it gracefully and tell her something, may be saying “we can go another time”. Don’t force the lady to explain, just stay calm and cool and look forward for another encounter. If the guys take the bold step to do the asking, how do we ladies also accept in order not to cause any harm. Your reply should be polite and courteous .If you can accept, appreciate the invitation and prepare for it and if not, just say “I’m sorry” but still appreciate him for asking. If there is the need for you to explain, just do it but don’t lie.

                        On the day of your date, the guys, never sit in the car and honk the horn but instead, pick her from the house and escort her to the car. And if both partners agree to meet, be on time. On every date is the guy that takes the responsibility of paying the expenses and for that, let the lady know your finances in order not for her to demand more and if the expenses would be shared, let the lady give her share ahead of time before you settle down.

                        When you are with your partner, avoid talking about yourself unless you are asked. It is always good to ask your partner questions that will interest them and also make them feel good. Try to avoid early kissing on first dates. If you establish a reputation for kissing on early dates, every guy you date will expect to start with it. If you kiss on a first date, what will you do later on when you establish a special relationship with someone.

                        A kiss should be something special, reserved for someone special so try to caution yourself not to give early kisses.

                        After enjoying your date, its always up to the guy to see that, the lady gets home at the agreed time and also waits for the lady to say “Goodnight” and goes in before walking away. With ladies, you can take the pleasure of saying “ I have enjoyed the evening, thank you so much for taking me.”

                        Every good relationship starts with a good date so accept and ask a good date for a better future.